Good Vibrations Magazine

The other night we had the lovely pleasure of a visit from Doctors Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence. The event was the latest in a series of in-store classes called Ask The Doctors. These classes are free events and happen on a regular basis at all our Bay Area locations. Tonight’s class focused on Erotic Role Play and the last presentation I got to listen in on was a lesson in Fellatio.

These classes are a hidden gem in this city. Carol and Robert are phenomenal teachers and have a wealth of knowledge between the two of them that is unmatched. I learn something new and great from them every time we have the chance to talk. I wanted to share with you the last few things I learned that left the greatest impression.

Lesson 1: For an easier time deep-throating your partner, lie face-up on a bed or sofa with your head hanging over the edge. In this position your partner can insert their cock into your mouth and the curve of your throat and their dick will be compatible. This will make it easier for you to take them further inside your throat.

Lesson 2:  If you and/or your partner are having trouble finding their inner sex persona, try starting from scratch.  Sometimes when we start feeling really comfortable in a relationship, things can get stagnant and we can easily forget what characters or activities are erotically charged for us.  Carol suggests scheduling a date with your partner, but as strangers.  Before hand decide when and where you’ll meet, and go from there pretending you’ve never met before.  This sounds fun even if your relationship hasn’t settled down yet.  Carol says this can bring out parts of yourself you’ve forgotten about or never knew of in the first place.  Who knows, perhaps the second time around you’re a snooty socialite submissive or a dominating teenage don juan.

Lesson 3:  On occasion, when trying something new in bed that’s super-charged for me I get an awful case of giggles.  I know I’m not alone in this.  And trust me I really want to be the corporate bitch who get’s shoved into place by her young assistant… but I just get nervous, and then it’s over and I start to laugh.  This is all theoretical, but really, I know a lot of us experience this in bed with our partners and always when it’s just getting to the good part.  Now, laughing during sex isn’t bad.  I hope we all giggle with our partners, but sometimes during role-play or certain activities it can take away from the experience or hinder someone’s ability to fully get into it.  So how to we get rid of the giggles?  Robert said first to talk about it with your partner(s) before hand.  Like, “Hey I’m really excited to do this scene but I think I might get nervous at some point. If I start laughing…” Robert also said that in the midst of playing if you get the giggles, sometimes it helps if your partner asserts some kind of touch or action that totally turns you on- a smack on the cheek, a firm grab of the crotch, a passionate kiss, dirty whispers into the ear.  This will likely bring you right back into the proper place and you can continue on your sexual adventure.

 Well, I hope you enjoyed these lessons as much as I did.  Remember, though, that you too are invited to these events and Carol and Roberts’ lessons are much more fun in person.  You can keep abreast of these events and others on our Community Events page.  We’d love to have you!

And lastly, your Sex Tip of the Day: Knowledge is power and prowess… Nothing is sexier than being a learned lover. So go ahead- get your school on!

Supremely skilled and still learning,

~*~Red~*~