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I think I pulled a crotch muscle at work the other day. Yes, a crotch muscle, and yes, at work. I have no idea how I did it, but the damn thing hurts, and all I can do is stare at all the massagers in the store and know I’m not allowed to use them on the pain.
In other news, our fancy toy buyer was featured in AVN this month, as part of their “Top 50 Under 40″ cover story. She can be found on page 82, should you feel like flipping through the magazine’s digital version. I love AVN; unlike the bulk of trade magazines that come through our door, the articles in AVN are always well written and intelligent. Sadly, however, they’ve redone their layout in a way that does nothing but distract from the content.
Also! Very important: We’re having a birthday party for Carol Queen at our Valencia St. store. I can’t wait. I adore Carol. Rarely have I encountered anyone so positive and quirky and intelligent and open. And she’s so polite and sweet, whether she’s talking about anal fisting or asking for extra chairs at book reading.
What I like most about Carol, though, is how dedicated she is to sex positivity. As one of the first scholars to use the term, and as the author of several books on the subject, she serves as the ultimate Sex Positivity Resource here at Good Vibrations. When a difficult question is asked, I often find myself thinking, “What Would Carol Do?”
Come and celebrate with us! It will be fun. There are gonna be suprises that even I don’t know about (and I’m going to be in charge of the store that night!).
Lastly:
A recent survey put out by the Pew Research Center reports that Americans rate a happy sexual relationship higher than having children when asked about what makes a marriage work. This makes me happy for many reasons, the top two being:
1. I love sex, and I love it when America admits she loves sex, too.
and
2. Studies like this do, indeed, threaten Traditional Family Values, and thank god they do. How long can conservative supremacists use old and crusty arguments against people like myself (big ol’ homos who would like to someday marry) when there are studies like this one to prove their tired arguments wrong? This type of research does not re-create the idea of marriage, but re-views the realities of marriage through more honest, scientific eyes.
Amen to that.
Homo with a vengence,
.jameson.
I fully support your right to marry. But please don’t make light of the crumbling of the institution of marriage. I’m a liberal family rights activist and I believe marriage should be respected and honored, no matter who marries. In today’s society children are being destroyed by divorces that remove one parent from their lives. If nothing else we need equal parenting laws to protect these kids.
I think that the “institution of marriage”, in its current form, does have some things that need to crumble off of it. Children should not be seen as requisites for a successful marriage. I fully support our society seeing a fulfilling sexual relationship as more important than creating offspring when deciding what makes a “good marriage”.
In my opinion, the more we move towards “marriage equals a union built by love and trust”, and the more we move away from “marriage equals finally attaining full adulthood and responsibility and now I have to have some kids to keep that position up”, the fewer children there will be “destroyed by divorce” because the fewer divorces there will be.
The question, asked in a different way, becomes “what makes a marriage a failure?” Lack of children does not a bad marriage make.