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I’m starting to work on a size acceptance related educational site and I need some more ideas.
This is what I’ve got so far….
Fat Fallacies
1) There are some positions fat people physically just can’t do.
Every body no matter what its size has limitations; this is also true of larger bodies.
However, just as smaller bodied people range in their abilities, so do fat people! Many positions have more to do with flexibility than with shape or size.
Just as there are thin bodied individuals who can’t touch their toes, there are many plump people who can not only touch their toes, but put their feet behind their head, do splits and do acrobatic flips.
Yes, there are special considerations for large bellies, asses and breasts, but they vary from body shape to body shape. For some bigger bellied people, feeling a lot of pressure on their bellies may feel uncomfortable, while some larger breasted women might feel uncomfortable with the weight of their breasts hanging down when they’re on top. It varies from person to person.
It is also true that sometimes body parts get in the way of certain positions, especially if both partners are large. Some people report problems when one partner is large and the other has a relatively small penis. There are always ways to work around this by switching positions or altering angles.
The plus side is that there are many positions that can be enhanced by having larger dimensions! Rubbing a well lubed penis between two ample butt cheeks or voluptuous breasts can be a tremendous amount of fun and doesn’t work quite as well for less abundant bodies.
2) Fat people can’t perform as long because they’re out of shape.
There are many fat people who engage in regular exercise and have excellent stamina. For those who are not in shape, there are positions to conserve energy that don’t require humping like a bunny! (Although I acknowledge that a fast fuck can be fun too!)
For those that are out of shape, side by side positions, switching to have the tired partner on the bottom or activities that don’t require bearing as much weight can make longer sessions easier.
3) Nobody wants to fuck a fat person.
If you believe this then obviously you haven’t been watching my career very closely! There are many people of both sexes that prefer larger bodies. Variety is what makes things interesting! Over the past decade I have had a very successful career as an adult model, often way out performing traditional adult sites with thinner models. Never once in my life have I had trouble finding sexual partners, in fact, I’m known for being very picky about who I’ll sleep with. This is true of many of my friends, also.
If you’re watching television or looking at magazines to get your ideas about what people should look like then you’re being misled! The reality is that the majority of women are over a size 14. This is very different from the sizes 0-6 that we are currently being shown on television. The media wants people to believe that only thinner people are desirable. They bombard us with diet ads that say things like “Now I am thin and I can get any man I want!” Generally, people who view themselves as worthy of love and sexual attention tend to get it, no matter what their body size.
4) Fat people are good in bed because they’re desperate.
Those who are sexually gifted tend to be so because they are considerate lovers who have both learned technique and take the time to learn their partner’s responses. This hardly sounds like the description of someone who is desperate to me. I also believe that those who have learned to be comfortable in their bodies tend to make better lovers. Generally, larger bodied people who have learned to embrace their bodies as beautiful tend to have positively dealt with oppressive messages from society, usually have supportive body positive friends or family and often have things in their lives that increase their sense of self that are not purely physical. These factors all lead to an increased ability to embrace intimacy.
That being said, there are many plump people who are insecure and are NOT good lovers. The same is true of thinner people with body image or intimacy issues. Might some of those insecure people attempt to prove their worth by reading every book on sex possible, hoping to make up for appearances by being excellent at sex? Sure…but that really doesn’t have anything to do with actually body size, does it.
5) All fat people suffer from low self esteem.
Nope! This is definitely not true! In my recent UC Berkeley study, Body Image, Attractiveness & Romantic Relationships. I proved empirically that there is NO correlation between body size (or any part of physical appearance) and self esteem. Some fat people have self esteem issues while others do not.
What I DID find was that having a positive body image and good self esteem did correlate with better sex and happier romantic relationships no matter what the subject looked like. Those who accept themselves as they are tend to be happier, healthier and have better sex!
6) Fat people are smelly.
Um…well I smell like pears and flowers does that count? My assumption is that this myth started because people assumed that fat people don’t take care of themselves and therefore sweat a lot without bathing. While I’m sure that there are some people that don’t bathe, and yes having extra crevices can mean more places for sweat to collect when it’s hot out, most people bathe!
7) Fat sex is dangerous because my fat partner might smother me to death.
I have never, not even once, heard of someone dying from being suffocated by their fat partner. In fact, there are many who LOVE being smooshed under a large pair of breasts or a thick pussy. None of these people has ever died from it.
One of my friends LOVES cuddle piles where mounds of people jump on top of him and squish him with their bodies. I’ve seen 8 large bodies piled on top of him and he was in heaven.
I’m sure all of you fabulous readers have some kick butt ideas of what I should add. If you do, please comment on this entry. I’d love to hear from you!
