Lately I’ve been spending alot more time with my partner’s kids. He has them every other weekend and the majority of that time they have me involved. Often, I find myself having mixed feelings about it. While I love them dearly and enjoying having them around, I’m also aware that they need quality time with their father alone. They get so little time with him and I never want to be seen as taking away from that.
The only problem is, they really seem to love having me around. A few weekends ago I suggested that he drive up and get them on his own so that they don’t feel like hanging out with me is a requirement to feel close to their father. When he got them and asked them what they wanted to do they told him that all they wanted to do was hang out at my house. Granted, I have a larger TV, an alienware computer, tivo, playstation 2 and some really neat tree frogs, but still it made me feel very wanted by them.
My struggle still continues…. when you have a relationship with kids involved that aren’t yours, how do you mix your sexual and romantic life with the family life that is best for the kids. How many kisses does it take before the kids feel awkward. If he grabs my ass in public is that weird for them? How much time do they need to themselves? What about sex with them visiting? These questions keep coming up for me and I have a feeling that I probably think about it more than their Dad does! I’ll let you know how it goes.

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