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Ever want to be fisted? Sexy black latex gloves and a bottle of lube make excellent stocking stuffers!
If you want to be really forward about it you could also throw in a fabulous book by Deborah Addington called Hand in the Bush. Goodvibes is out of stock on these unfortunately, but you can find it pretty easily on Amazon or perhaps even in one of our physical stores.
For those of you who are new to the term. Fisting is the act of inserting an entire hand into the vagina (or anus). The process requires time, attention and communication from both the fister and the fistee. Many fisting enthusiasts describe the act as being an amazing, transformative bonding experience. A good fisting session is like a long sensuous dance between two partners. It requires being present both physically and mentally, communicating needs on a moment by moment basis in a connected and loving way. Both dancers must work together to not step on any toes.
Before I give you the logistics of how to actually fist someone there are a few disclaimers I feel compelled to share in advance.
1) Keep in mind that sometimes fisting can take several stretching sessions before your body is ready to experience a full hand. Some people never take an entire hand. Don’t get over invested in the outcome, enjoy the process.
2) Communication is key! Do not try this with a partner who is unable or unwilling to clearly let you know how things are going.
3) This is an advanced technique. Please proceed carefully!
4) Relax!
A recipe for Vaginal Fisting
Ingredients:
1 well manicured hand (Make sure that your fingers are well manicured and free of sharp edges. Dragonclaw nails and fisting don’t tend to mix very well!
1 latex glove (even if you aren’t worried about tears or STD’s, gloves provide an extra slick surface that makes fisting easier)
1 water based lubricant (you’ll be reapplying often)
Method:
Apply lube to your hand and fingers generously. Insert fingers into your lover’s vagina paying close attention to her responses. Providing clitoral pleasure with your mouth or free fingers will usually enhance the experience for the receiver.
Start with just a finger or two adding more fingers and lube as the vagina opens up to accept them. Some vaginas will only be able to fit fingers during an initial session while others will be ready for your hand quickly. Listen to your partner for feedback on what they are ready for.
Once several fingers are inside your lover’s vagina, tuck your pinky and forefinger inward. Gradually work up to the point where your thumb can tuck into your palm.
Working past the knuckles often takes the most time. Having your partner arch their head back, breathing out and bearing down as you push inward can help. Pay attention to your partners needs and slow down if it becomes too painful. It may take several sessions to push past the knuckles so go slowly and enjoy the session even if it doesn’t end in a full fisting.
If you are able to make a push past the knuckles, make a fist and ask your partner what feels best to them. Some women enjoy thrusting, others like stillness or twisting.
Sometimes talking to the fistee during the process can help relax them. “I can feel your pelvis stretching to let me in” “Im at three fingers now” etc.
For the fistee, relaxing is key. If you’re tense or nervous it will be much harder to accept a fist into your vagina. Give your partner feedback on what is working or not working and don’t be afraid to say stop if it’s too much for you.
There are a few decent guides on the web if you want to read more about fisting techniques.
Just remember, the more aroused your partner is, the more likely you’ll be successful. Sometimes the best fisting sessions are the ones that end before completion because both partners have already orgasmed again and again and again. Have fun!
OMG! About.com has a guide to fisting? Today is a happy day!