run with it.

By jameson • Aug 3rd, 2006 • Category: Blog

She told me to blow her and so I did. She was in the middle of mixing the ground beef into our pasta sauce, and I had said some shit-head-ish sarcastic remark. “Blow me” was her response. I had been thinking about having sex earlier that day, so I took her response as an invitation, and I can’t say that she complained.

Why am I telling you this? Because cognitive distractions (as my fellow blogger has described) don’t happen exclusively while you’re having sex; they can also inhibit the beginning of the act itself. We hesitate too much. We over think the moment and then the moment is gone. Don’t hesitate. Trust yourself. Listen to yourself, and value what you want. You wanna have sex while your partner is mixing food on the stove? Run with it. Turn the stove off and drop to your knees. Want to start your day with a smile? Invite yourself into your partner’s morning shower. Ask for help with the soap.

Or, if the whole “two people in a one-person shower” thing doesn’t work for you, take advantage of your lover’s super clean warm body as soon as they step out. Post-shower is the most perfect time for any anal play, espeically for those who are a tad hesitant to go “there”. The minds of both the licker (or finger-er, or whatever) and lickee will be put at ease, both knowing that all is sparkly clean and fresh.

Let sex happen in more places and more times. Let more things count as sex. If sexy girlfriend is cooking dinner and you think “I’d like to go down on her right now,” don’t worry about if you have time to get her off. Don’t worry about how dirty the floor might be, or how expensive your pants are. Don’t worry, period. The only thing you need to pay attention to is sexy girlfriend, and how she responds to your advances. If she helps you lift her skirt, run with it.

I used to have millions of tiny insecurities tied to sex (and some rather big ones, as well). I think we all do, in different number and to different degrees, but insecurities nonetheless. One of the first steps for me in getting rid of those insecurities was to ignore them, just for a second, just for the minute between thinking of doing something and actually doing it. I had to let go of my worries for the small moment between “I’m really horny right now” and actually dry-humping my girlfriend. Once past that little in-between moment, roll with the momentum and see where it takes you.

Here’s to letting great sex be a worthwhile destination.
take care,
.jameson.

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jameson is a very wholesome looking pervert who is a sex cheerleader by day, super sex cheerleader by night. she majored in women's studies but hates assumed gender differences, loves porn, and was never taught how to think her words are worthless, so obviously she likes to write (and talk and talk and talk, fast).
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  1. Wildchyld on August 4th, 2006 at 6:04 pm:

    This is totally true! I’ve had many partners tell me things like “I really wanted you right then, but I didn’t” to which I generally reply “WHY!!!!! FOR GOODNESS SAKE FUCK ME!”
    My favorite experiences generally are those silly, playful lustful moments that could never be planned.
    Oh and as the girl with the worlds SMALLEST shower stall and the worlds biggest ass, I can tell you for a fact that walking out in the middle of your living room covered in suds and asking someone to do your back is damn good fun :)

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