Comments on: Shut up brain I wanna cum (The Cognitive Distraction Phenomenon) http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2006/07/20/shut-up-brain-i-wanna-cum-the-cognitive-distraction-phenomenon/ Your Weekly Dose of Sex and Culture Fri, 21 Nov 2008 08:24:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: woodsprite http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2006/07/20/shut-up-brain-i-wanna-cum-the-cognitive-distraction-phenomenon/#comment-12185 woodsprite Sat, 29 Jul 2006 14:55:47 +0000 http://blog.goodvibes.com/?p=70#comment-12185 Whoa, I thought you were going to talk about cognitive distractions as an AID in sex! What you have written here is good and important. My stories are rather about distracting my brain from all the noise (incl. worries) that interfere with surrendering to pleasure. I like choosing/being given a mental task to focus on while my partner works on me physically. One memorable experience was leaning over the kitchen table, doing the "Jumbles" in the newspaper (crossword or sudoku would do as well) while getting fucked from behind by my partner. HOT!!! Of course my partner wished I would pay more attention to him but let me just say, those Jumbles never got finished. Maybe this is a form of power play--me submitting to focusing on an unrelated task or topic rather than the action at hand (if directed to by a dom), or me daring my partner to grab my attention for him/herself! (using his/her most irresistibly seductive technique) Either way, I find that NOT focusing on orgasm is often the easiest way for me to reach one. Good luck all! Whoa, I thought you were going to talk about cognitive distractions as an AID in sex! What you have written here is good and important. My stories are rather about distracting my brain from all the noise (incl. worries) that interfere with surrendering to pleasure.

I like choosing/being given a mental task to focus on while my partner works on me physically. One memorable experience was leaning over the kitchen table, doing the “Jumbles” in the newspaper (crossword or sudoku would do as well) while getting fucked from behind by my partner. HOT!!! Of course my partner wished I would pay more attention to him but let me just say, those Jumbles never got finished.

Maybe this is a form of power play–me submitting to focusing on an unrelated task or topic rather than the action at hand (if directed to by a dom), or me daring my partner to grab my attention for him/herself! (using his/her most irresistibly seductive technique)

Either way, I find that NOT focusing on orgasm is often the easiest way for me to reach one. Good luck all!

]]> By: Debbie http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2006/07/20/shut-up-brain-i-wanna-cum-the-cognitive-distraction-phenomenon/#comment-12184 Debbie Sat, 22 Jul 2006 06:40:03 +0000 http://blog.goodvibes.com/?p=70#comment-12184 I don't know what to say! I think this is "me"...and that I'm the only one who has this problem! Please, please - I need more advice. I had a hysterectomy 8 years ago and have trouble having that physical wave of horniness that comes over you. When I used to have this - it was easy for orgasms...In my head - I am always ready for sex! I enjoy it when I am with someone; but can't quite get there! I have no problems at home with my vibrators and a good porn..but now I just think it's all in my head! Since I know I am a "slow burn"...I have trouble "letting go" during sex with a man...any other suggestions to help me "better focus" during sex? I don’t know what to say! I think this is “me”…and that I’m the only one who has this problem! Please, please - I need more advice. I had a hysterectomy 8 years ago and have trouble having that physical wave of horniness that comes over you. When I used to have this - it was easy for orgasms…In my head - I am always ready for sex! I enjoy it when I am with someone; but can’t quite get there! I have no problems at home with my vibrators and a good porn..but now I just think it’s all in my head! Since I know I am a “slow burn”…I have trouble “letting go” during sex with a man…any other suggestions to help me “better focus” during sex?

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